When my lover asked to go with me in 2017, I said no. We were dating for a year, and both our New York City were about to end. He said that if we live in only one place then we will save a lot of money. But I got nervous.
Our life felt very boring. We were on track to follow the traditional relationship playbook. Next we will get married, then we will have children, and before we know this, our iron-class routine will guide us directly to a retirement house.
Instead, I argued, we should do something different. We sold 90% of our goods, stored the rest in the basement of our parents, and Went to a new city Every month (sometimes lasts for a long time and sometimes repeats a destination).
For two years, we received short -term fares through Craigslist, Facebook groups and AirBNB. We lived in a total of 10 cities including Chicago, Denver, Los Angeles and Austin.
Now we are back to Brooklyn. We are married and have a daughter. But the lesson we took from this adventure work is still inspired how we live today.
We realized what really means
I always placed a passionate value on my luggage. It was difficult for me that I could give clothes that are no longer fit or get rid of books, letters and others. But to travel easily in the country, we brought each to each checked bag and a carry-on suitcase.
We packed objects like Winter Coat and family memorable and left them with their husband’s parents. We donated, thrown, or sold to the rest of our belongings.
Jane Glontz and her husband in Austin.
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It was difficult to say goodbye in this moment. Every now and then, I wanted me to still have an item or two clothes that I had given or a pile of birthday card I had thrown. But those feelings faded rapidly.
When we went back to Brooklyn to start a family, I became an ultra-minimal. I rarely bought new things and found myself a few times a month while cleaning the cupboard and drawer that we did not hold things without any reason. Low luggage I crowded with my location, I feel equally better.
We had to shake our routine
Before we used to do so, we went home every day from work, ate at the same place on rotation, and optioned between two or three weekend activities.
But when we started living in new places, we did not have a chance to make a routine. As much as we could see, we were equally curious that we never went to deliberately or moved the same route to visit places, and we made a rule that we could not eat more than twice in any restaurant.
First, it was uncomfortable. But it forced us Try new thingsSurfing to a state fair to go on a date.
Although it is now difficult to apply on a daily basis, we make a seasonal bucket list of things that we want to do in the city of New York, plan a unique date every month, and switch to our weekend dinner places.
We learned to live on low
Although it may look like an economically irresponsible decision to dig your home and travel across the country, we really save money on the way. In New York, both of us were paying for our separate living places. In addition, our monthly expenses included gym membership, impulse purchase, and more.
Jane Glenz and her husband in Chicago.
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When we traveled, we made less shopping. We did not have space for new clothes or knockcutics, and found low -cost fare we shared.
We invested more money in mutual funds and stock markets so that when we finally went back to Brooklyn, we were able to raise rent on a bedroom apartment which would have been out of our value range otherwise.
By that time, we had a habit to live with low, and we started following a budget, helping us to save.
We really know each other (and ourselves) really well
I only knew my husband for one year when we decided to go together on this adventure work. We knew each version of each one who had long routines in a familiar city.
Once we started walking, we Found to know each other’s different aspectsFor the first time, we deal with the stress and challenges of navigating a new city, to find out where to live, and do not know anyone else there.
We had to find ways to make our lives in these new places. We lift personal hobbies, go to our separate industry events, and plan a single night each week so that we can come back and talk about the different experiences we have.
Not only this was strengthened by our relationship, but it also deepened our spirit. I started liking even more Me Again, I was lost in my 9 to 5 work and was living on the same day on the same day. This helped me find and hug the adventure.
Even though we are happy with our two -year -old daughter in Brooklyn, it is something that we will do with her again at the age of 18.
Jane glands Is the founder of Bride for rentauthor of “Finally bride: Find love after everyone walks under the corridor“And the manufacturer of Take me Newspaper. Follow her adventures on Instagram @Zangalantz.
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